How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Read Your Ways

Husband Waiting Area

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I read an interesting blog discussion the other day about romance writers who have their spouses read their work-in-progress. Their husbands’ or wives’ willingness to read the love scenes (some erotic) made me laugh out loud. I’m not laughing at them- I commend them for having (and using) that luxury. I wish I had that luxury. Because my husband doesn’t like to read. Not ‘doesn’t like to read my stuff”; but doesn’t like to read, period. At all.

Which made me think: is it ironic that I’m an aspiring romance author, writing up a creative storm every day (or most days), and the very man who inspires much of the love scenes I write doesn’t like to read? I quit my day job so I could write full-time (and take care of our son), and he helps me accomplish this by providing for our family so I can pursue my passion. But he doesn’t want to read my passion. (He’d rather leave it in the bedroom).

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not making any assumptions about my husband’s unwillingness to read my work. It’s not like I’ve never asked him just thinking he’d prefer not to. That was one blog responder’s story. She never asked because she didn’t think her spouse would be interested.

But I’ve asked my husband. Several times. “Just 1 paragraph, please?” He still refuses. But I can’t blame him. As much as he detests to read, I still laugh when I see him sitting in his office reading a text-book (he’s currently studying for his Masters degree). Which, when he told me he wanted his Masters, I laughed again because I knew how much he hated to read. And Masters is ALL READING. But I still support him 100% and get a kick out of watching him read his textbooks.

But I won’t rag on his unwillingness to read my work too much.  He still helps me come up with perfect zingers and one-liners that fit perfectly to my characters and dialogue. My husband is an expert at off-the-cuff comebacks.

And bottom line, I know he loves me. I know he supports me, and he works hard so I can write full-time. And I thank him every day for giving me this chance. So instead of reading my work to help me, he assists me by being my muse and inspiration for the stories I love to write.

What about you? Does your significant other read your work? Have you even thought to ask them?

3 responses to “How Do I Love Thee? Let Me Read Your Ways

  1. My husband also hates to read. I almost passed out the day he asked me if I wanted to go to borders with him to buy a book. (Zombies apparently, are worth reading about.)

    I don’t really mind, especially since he has a huge interest in the peripheral areas of writing. (He won’t read the work, but he’ll happily take apart one of his guns and show me what bits and bobs my gun-savvy character needs to know about.)

    It’s a trade off.

  2. I’m so glad you posted this! My husband hasn’t read my MS either, and to be honest, it’s been a sore spot with me. But, truthfully, there is a tiny part of me that doesn’t want him to read it. It’s that self-conscious part that would crumble if the love of my life says to me, “Sweetie, I think you’re a better gardener than writer, so maybe you should rethink how you spend your weekends.”

    But, you know what, he surprised me recently. He has a printed copy (albeit two drafts ago) and during dinner one night, some friends asked how things were going with querying and asked Colby if he’d read it and what he thought. He said he’s read part of it and I’m a really good writer. I nearly dropped my fork. The thing I was most worried about was a non-issue.

    I agree Susie, the important part is that he’s cheering me on. Maybe our hubbies are just waiting for the movies based on our books to come out (and knowing my husband, he’s crossing his fingers Scarlett Johanssen plays my heroine). 🙂

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